There Isn't Only One Way
I’ve spent a lot of time recently thinking about the future.
What does life look like for a singer/songwriter who’s 35 with kids (God willing) and a hot wife?
I want to be around when my kids take their first steps. I want to be around when they fall off their bike for the first time and need someone to help them up. I want to be around when something goes wrong at school and they come home upset.
I want to be there.
So, what does that mean about my music career?
Can I still have a successful career in music without traveling around the globe, or is that what it takes to be “successful”.
I think we can all agree that there is usually more than one way of doing things.
For instance, I keep a budget for my family using an excel spreadsheet. That works really well for me. Others may use a budgeting app, or a different format for their budget. At the end of the day, we all have budgets that work for us and keep us updated on where we are financially.
Another example could be showering. Some people prefer to shower in the morning, while others would rather shower the night before. In the end, both methods of showering end with you being clean.
Maybe I’m oversimplifying things, but I believe the same goes for being a musician.
I don’t believe you HAVE to tour for 3 months and go to every state, in order to be a successful musical artist.
I don’t believe you HAVE to stay in the studio writing songs until 4am, in order to be a successful musical artist.
Those three things and in that particular order, make up the foundation of everything I stand for. Music will never come before faith and family. As a matter of fact, the music is simply a byproduct of my faith and family.
Do I want to win a Grammy award?
Of course. But it will not be at the expense of my faith or my family.
The thing is. When I leave this Earth, none of the awards or titles that I achieve are going with me. None of the notoriety and fame will be tagging along.
I am going to be a successful musician.
But you and I may not have the same definition of success.
That’s perfectly fine. We can all have different definitions of success.
I will say though that many of us, including myself, give money more value than time. We determine someones level of success by the amount of money they have in the bank, the house they live in, or the car they drive. Obviously, we need money to live and function, but the real question is how MUCH money we need to live and function.
What if we made less money per year, but made up that value in the time we were able to spend with our families?
We aren’t supposed to work in order to one day live when we retire.
We are supposed to live.
Nobody is guaranteed to make it to retirement, so why are we working for it?
I don’t know what it’s going to look like to be a songwriter when I’m 35 with a wife and kids.
To cope with the uncertainty, I look at life as one giant puzzle with each day being one individual puzzle piece.
God brought us into the world and handed us the box. Our job is to take the lid off and figure out how all the pieces fit together.